WHAT COUPLES MUST KNOW ABOUT HEALTHY SEX LIFE – BY REV’D ICHULO ICHULO
I like to discuss an important aspect of healthy sex life of couples in this edition – Orgasm. Encyclopedia dictionary defines orgasm as a ‘sexual climax’. The climax of sexual excitement consisting of intense muscle tightening around the genital area experienced as the pleasure waves of the tingling sensations move through all parts of the body. Orgasm is a period when couples ejaculates or releases seminal fluids as a climax of a sex experience.
Orgasm is not a subject of attention for the unmarried but couples. To some Christian couples, the term orgasm is a taboo but understanding how it works is of a great advantage to the love life of couples.
Orgasm has remained a mirage to very many people even in marriage, leading to serious issues in marriage. Ignorance of the orgasmic experience in marriage has put either of the couple or both in serious frustrations, especially when no experienced counsellor talks to them about their sex life. If either of the couple is aware of the bliss of orgasm and he or she is not getting; that’s the beginning of trouble in that marriage, as either may seek alternative path to experiencing orgasm. Oftentimes, women are the victims.
A lady expressed her frustration to me after a couples’ seminar. She was not sure if she had had orgasmic experience for more than three times in her marriage of twenty years. The frustration was well written on her forehead. Another lady was more aggressive. After a seminar, she walked up to ask that I should tell the husband to introduce this experience in their marriage. She threatened not to endure further frustration with a ‘one – man show’ experience during sex again. Her husband who also attended the seminar was with her when she voiced her frustration to me. The purpose of this article is to educate couples on how to attend orgasm and enjoy healthy sex life in their marriage.
FIVE SYSTEMATIC STEPS TO ORGASM
There are so many great authors who have written so much on romance and sex; but the work of the following people have affected me strongly. Dereck Liewellyn Jones, an Associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology, the author of the book “Every Woman” has done a wonderful job in this area. Another great author that has made a tremendous contribution in this area is Bishop Dag Heward Mills, the author of the book “Model Marriage”. Their work presents down to earth steps to this birthright of couples. Now let me glean and blend from these great contributions and present a simple five steps to orgasm and a blissful love game.
PREPARATION STAGES:
Preparation stage is a stage of desire, packing and travelling. It has to do with the mind, in addition to all that was said in previous pages. Generally speaking, this preparation has to do with desire and fixing of the environment; creating of the romantic climates and traveling to the “examination center.” Preparation may involve so many things and these turns out to be the contributions of each of the couples:
Men’s contributions:
(a) A good talk: One of the outstanding things that give women a good arousal sexually is a good and romantic talks. These talks must be creative, positive and sustained.
(b) A good touch: Another thing that arouses a woman is a good touch. When body contacts are made women understands this as romantic sign of good things to come. All of these has a way of getting her ready for the love feast.
C) A functional penis: Sometimes, desire and erection go together. But sometimes the health of one’s organ can slow down the pace and spate of the show. Basically, there are four types of erections but the one needed for a smooth journey to orgasm is a functional erection.
A). A weak erection: Weak erection is not helpful during love game. It is head down completely. It could be because of health condition or some psychological issues. A man with a weak erection is ready to be a good brother rather than to be a husband. His prayers and tarry night begins once the night falls. These people needs checkups, maintenance and enhancement.
B).A normal erection: A normal erection may be useful but may be rising and falling. Most of the times it may struggle through the love show but some external hands must be there for the show to end joyfully.
C). A functional erection: A functional erection is up and independent. It does not too much of petting and stroking. It does not need much from the waves of the heart desires. It could take one safely through the show. But collapse completely, immediately after the ejaculation and may never be able to undergo a repeat of orgasm.
D). The hardcore erection: The hardcore erection may never come naturally like others. It is always enhanced by supplement and other vitamins or proper regular and properly prescribed medications. It is always hard, independent and very enduring. Once in a while, every man needs this kind of experience. It makes a man to feel like the Lion of the tribe of this marriage. It gives men the sense of mastery and kingship. I have discovered that every normal woman will quietly appreciate a man that his penis is hard core and very functional.
Three things separate hardcore erection from others: It is always enhanced; it is able to handle multiple rounds of orgasms. It may not collapse or fall even after an ejaculations.
Every man that is serious with his love life must check the health of his penis and give it the much needed attention always. Civilized, cultured and world class women may not tolerate the weak and irresponsible penis for a very long time. This is very serious please!
D). A good clean ups: It is not women alone that should present themselves as a living sacrifice during love games. Men too should enter the bed clean, fresh and inviting. Their mouth should produce a good aroma otherwise, kissing may become a big issue.
WOMEN’S CONTRIBUTIONS: Men do have so much to do during this love feast but the women possess the keys that makes the play wholesome, complete and pleasurable. I would try to list some of the key contributions that women must make if they want to travel with the husbands to this promise land called orgasm.
1). A good look: Choose carefully and wear romantic night wears, sexy pants and good looking brassieres. These might make you very attractive and appealing. Look good, smell nice and be very clean. Add some other forms of make ups that makes you become charmfull and irresistible. Normal and functional men finds it difficult to resist romantic and seductive in their appearance.
2). Learn to display some seductive gimmicks: Seduction is the act of being tactful but earnestly persuading and sometimes luring one to sex, using the weapon of romantic or display approach; while gimmick is a concealed intention to manipulate someone with an intention to achieve a desired goal or result.
Almost all ladies are well armed with these tricks when they are not married. But they drop them and take things for granted as soon as they are married. The list of these seductive gimmicks are endless. But the most important thing is to find out what best stirs up or excites your man and to be creative and tactful in your presentations.
3). Develop a melting grace: To melt here has to do with changing from the solid (normal, traditional and Adamic or very primitive) state to a liquid (seductive, enticing and inviting) state.
This the state that makes a women to wear the real look of a weaker vessel, attractive and sexually inviting. Some ladies remain as untouchable and unmovable stones even under very intense romantic climates. This does not give the man the necessary feedback that could enable him to groan like the Lion of the house.
4). A good clean ups: The cleanliness of a lady is very crucial during love games. A lady should always come into the room fresh, sweet and inviting. They may need to take permission from their husbands to take a good shower or have a good clean up. Secondly, all the mature and experienced world class ladies would always keep a clean hand towels that would be used when necessary in cleaning or wipe – mopping their vagina, to keep it considerably dry. This helps to produce a more firm and stronger grip on the penis of the driver. This grip in turn affects the chemistry of the man’s head and may help to take the man to a state of ecstasy with all kind of manifestations of different kinds of tongues. (This is not a makeup story from anywhere but a part of God’s normal make ups and providence to mankind within the school of love although it is totally hidden from certain sets of people depending on their traditional holdups in their level of knowledge and environments). (In fact, it is believed that it is the level of a woman’s clean ups during love games that do separate the experienced, world class ladies from the primitive bush girls or women who are in some kind of traditional prisons).
5). Do virginal exercise: It is very normal that after birth of children the virginal of a woman may become a little bit loosed and somehow relaxed. A loose, relaxed or wider vagina may not allow your man or husband to have much excitement during love games as before. This is where the problem is. Some of the husbands who are not rooted in the Lord and do not truly love their wives may stray into the hands of some other women. A white lady friend ones told me that the husband told her that she is spent. That is to say that there is nothing to enjoy in her again.
That cannot be true of course. However, this may be one of the critical issues to be handled. Performing vaginal exercise is very simple and does not cost anything. Repeat the squeezing of yourself to stop urine for two or three seconds, and as many times as possible in a day. That’s all. You can practice it in other times when you are in the church, market, work place or at home. Repeat this practice as many time as you can, until at a point it become a natural, every day habit for you. Simple! A frequent practice of this exercise will help to tighten the muscles that surrounds the vagina that has become loosed and become weakened with time because of child’s birth and old age. This condition would give the women a better sensation in the vagina and prevents the penis from being loose and floating freely in the vagina. This kind of women are very mature, very rare to find and ”expensive” – their price are far above rubies – and do have that ability to make their men to scream and lose control of their voices during coitus or love games. All of these contributions belongs to the preparations stage. We are now ready for the next stage.
1.THE ENGAGEMENT STAGE:
Preparation stage has to do with the gathering of materials while the engagement stage has to do with making contacts and building up excitements. This is the actual meeting stage. When couples finally meet, too many things do happen in quick successions. As the couples establish contacts, their bodies as well as their sex organs begins to change as they are sexually aroused. The nipples of the lady becomes more erect and the areola around them swells up and become a little duskier. Her size of vagina will increase. There is a soft swelling around the vagina lips as a result of the congestion of blood around this organs. The vagina is also lubricated by some kind of fluid or oil secreted by two small glands near the opening of the vagina. The quality of the fluid varies from woman to woman depending on the state of their health, the level of their excitement and of course the stimulation or the management of their husband. This is where a small clean Towel would be useful in controlling and maintaining the level of dryness which produces the grip that is required to produce the excitement needed for the normal drive (continued on next edition).
